Part 13 (2/2)

Do not be too positive.

Do not talk of display oratory.

Do not try to lead in conversation looking around to enforce silence.

Lay aside affected, silly etiquette for the natural dictates of the heart.

Direct the conversation where others can join with you and impart to you useful information.

Avoid oddity. Eccentricity is shallow vanity.

Be modest.

Be what you wish to seem.

Avoid repeating a brilliant or clever saying.

[Ill.u.s.tration: THINKING ONLY OF DRESS.]

If you find bashfulness or embarra.s.sment coming upon you, do or say something at once. The commonest matter gently stated is better than an embarra.s.sing silence. Sometimes changing your position, or looking into a book for a moment may relieve your embarra.s.sment, and dispel any settling stiffness.

Avoid telling many stories, or repeating a story more than once in the same company.

Never treat any one as if you simply wanted him to tell stories.

People laugh and despise such a one.

Never tell a coa.r.s.e story. No wit or preface can make it excusable.

Tell a story, if at all, only as an ill.u.s.tration, and not for itself.

Tell it accurately.

Be careful in asking questions for the purpose of starting conversation or drawing out a person, not to be rude or intrusive.

Never take liberties by staring, or by any rudeness.

Never infringe upon any established regulations among strangers.

Do not always prove yourself to be the one in the right. The right will appear. You need only give it a chance.

Avoid argument in conversation. It is discourteous to your host.

Cultivate paradoxes in conversation with your peers. They add interest to common-place matters. To strike the harmless faith of ordinary people in any public idol is waste, but such a movement with those able to reply is better.

Never discourse upon your ailments.

Never use words of the meaning or p.r.o.nunciation of which you are uncertain.

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