Chapter 277 (2/2)

Tang Lan, a middle-aged woman, comforted him and reassured him. She knew a woman who didn't want to have a child. As long as she didn't have another child, it would not affect Feng Du's children, and she could continue to live. It's really hard to find a balance between children's happiness and their own happiness and get a win-win result.

Fang Tianxing saw Feng Du chatting with Tang Lan, a middle-aged woman, more and more happily. Finally, he exchanged telephone and social accounts with each other. When they got off the bus, they said they would make another appointment when they were free, so that Feng Du could meet the woman who introduced them to the same village. Fang Tianxing felt strange. He seemed to be a matchmaker for Feng Du.

However, Fang Tianxing is not angry. Feng Du has been single for such a long time. It's good to have a companion. After all, he's all his readers. At least, he doesn't want to be an outsider.

In addition to their own relatives, readers are their closest relatives.

When Feng Du came home, his child was still crying in the corner. He went over and patted his child on the shoulder and comforted him: ”my child, it's dad who is not good and should not be angry with you.”

Before, it was because the child wanted to learn football, which was totally different from Feng Du's expectation. He couldn't help beating the child. He felt very guilty and couldn't forgive himself.

More people have suffered verbal violence from their parents than we think. Those parents who will use language to hurt their children recklessly may be because they are still children themselves. Of course, this is not an excuse for these parents. Their ”child” side shows that they are extremely immature emotionally.

What do parents look like when they are emotionally immature? If our parents are like this, what can we do for ourselves?

An emotionally immature parent may have the following behaviors, emphasizing the role of kinship and building self-esteem on the obedience of others.

Immature parents will say, ”because I'm your parent, so I can... Because you're a child, so you have to...” they emphasize the subordinate part of the parent-child relationship, thinking that you have to follow their orders.

If you have any behavior that doesn't conform to their role setting, they may force you back to your position as a child through cold violence, intimidation, etc. This kind of inequality of identity is easy to bring language harm.

Children rarely express their emotions directly, but let them feel emotions through emotional infection. Infants and children will express their needs through emotional infection, and they make a lot of noise to attract the attention of caregivers.

When some immature parents are depressed, they are just like children, and they will express it in a way that makes other family members feel depressed.

For example, when they feel angry because of other things, they often do not tell their children what happened to them and the anger they feel, but they will project the anger on their children and scold or hurt them in words.

So children will feel that they have the responsibility to make their parents happy. But because parents do not try to face their own depression, but choose to escape, children actually have no way to solve their parents' problems.