Chapter 260 (1/2)

Fang Tianxing can see that in the whole process, Artest is still trying to control his emotions as much as possible, and does not have too many positive conflicts with Xu Xin, but his emotions have been generated. In contrast, Xu Xin seems to have begun to apologize and admit her mistakes, but her way of speaking is not convinced. She is not satisfied with Artest's preaching.

But the way men and women communicate is not the same, Artest thought that this is in communication. However, it's just venting your emotions. It's similar to moral kidnapping. Originally, one's mood is unstable and one's laziness is the first, but he forces the other party to conform to his own attitude in the way of the victim.

Finally, Xu Xin said in a blunt tone, ”well, I'm wrong. I'll change it later.”

”Admit your mistake and go for a snack like me. If I do something wrong to you one day, I will only tell you, I'm wrong, what's your reaction. For example, I told you how I felt, but you are beating the king. Can I do the same to you in the future? ” Artest said discontentedly.

At this point, Artest immersed in their emotions, and Xu Xin's mood is also a little strained. As a result, Artest felt very tired to communicate with Xu Xin.

This kind of dialogue, Fang Tianxing believes, will happen to many couples. Artest communicated with his girlfriend with emotion, and did not use the things he usually created in network literature to ease his emotion. On the contrary, they turn what they have learned into weapons and make themselves stand at the commanding height of morality.

Including usually we see a lot of emotional articles, emotional methods, skills are also like this. Many times, many people turn these things into their own weapons. However, this knowledge is not a spear, nor a sword, nor a life-saving straw that you can grasp when there is a problem, nor a weapon to protect yourself absolutely right.

It looks more like children's usual means when they quarrel. And even if we are in communication, the core of the argument will stay in the right and wrong of the event, ignoring the feelings of each other when it happened.

There are few real right and wrong things between men and women. What we need to review and discuss is the feelings of the parties, not the event itself. Bear in mind that when describing feelings, the parties themselves are dealing with emotions autonomously. When we go back to the event itself, it's easy to make conflicts and emotions intensify again, so that we can't communicate smoothly.

Fang Tianxing said to Artest: ”brother, you should say that. You have to tell Xu Xin that you apologize for the unhappiness you have caused by not dealing with your emotions properly. I am so much older than you, I feel your love and respect for me, but I am so selfish, standing in my own position to think and put pressure on you. Sorry, in fact, my emotional source is mainly because I miss you. I want you to accompany me instead of others. I'm shy and don't want to say such words to you directly. I'm sorry for your misunderstanding. ”

Fang Tianxing was very touched by what he said to Artest. When men and women get along with each other, there are always contradictions. Secondly, they respect each other's opinions.

Has the final say that boys should be active in their emotions and learn to lead girls, but don't always say what you want, you should learn to ask the other side's initiative.

Being able to listen to each other's opinions and adjust your behavior according to them is a kind of tolerance.

Girls value one thing very much in their relationship, that is, enough respect and love. If you can't respect each other's opinions and put them into your decision-making process, then you won't tolerate each other.

Tolerance is not just that there is a quarrel, I do not care about you, such tolerance is the simplest, the shallowest tolerance.

Because when you say that, in your heart, this person is not an equal object of communication, but a person you don't care about at all. You are communicating with her with a sense of superiority.

Real tolerance is to be able to take each other into consideration, two people can communicate equally together, you can listen to each other's opinions, respect and try to identify with each other's ideas.