Chapter 236 (1/2)
Fang Tianxing knows that she really repents. Most of the time, people don't make mistakes intentionally. Because of the lack of cognition, they make wrong choices at the juncture of life. It is clear that there is a chance to change life, but they can only let the chance slip away.
People's pain comes from themselves. Many times we can face the crossroads in our life. Every time we don't know where to go. Once you choose the road, you can't go back.
It takes a great price to make a new choice. Once we set foot on the road, we have to pay a great price when we want to go back. The risk of going back and the uncertainty of the future will make us anxious and confused, and we don't know how to balance to get the best way.
In fact, people's anxiety does not come from facing the reality, but from the aversion to the risk of uncertainty. Just as we all like to contact familiar things and familiar processes, many people are reluctant to leave even if they feel boring.
Because to leave means to face new things, to re learn, re adapt, and constantly overcome the difficulties in the process, until all new skills and new thinking have become habits, and you are in a new balance, that is, a new comfort zone.
Even if we can see the development of an event in the future, remember that it's a process of ebb and flow, because the more prominent the situation of this opportunity is, the more successful people there are, the less growth dividend we will be left with.
People are always anxious about not being able to succeed. Meaningless anxiety can't help us solve any problems, on the contrary, it will greatly consume our spirit and will. Directional anxiety can help you to make continuous improvement and try. In the process of practice, your experience ability will grow. At the same time, whether it is to capture long-term value or short-term trend, your cognition will also be strengthened.
She realized that it was her choice. There is a choice, and there is no choice, this is two things. In her past understanding, there was no concept of choice in this matter. She can't see the opportunity of choice, but thinks that life has made the choice for her. Everything is forced by life. There is no other way.
Since she chose to accept her fate and was coerced forward by life, she would know that she had weighed the pros and cons. At that time, she made the decision herself out of her own interests and after consideration of the results. In life, she is not the victim of life, but a player. When she is faced with the plot branch, she chooses a more favorite plot direction, and the later story development can only be borne by herself.
In many people's world, there is no self. He has too many responsibilities, and most of the time he lives for others. Many people choose to go to college in order to fulfill their parents' wishes, find a job in order to live a good life, work hard to save money in order to get married, and get married in order to give an account to their girlfriends.
It is people's good wish that people should be equal. It is true that people are born unequal. People should work hard towards their goals, but they should also accept the reality.
In order to escape from the pain of reality, people seek entertainment activities to escape from the pain. Shuangwen invents all kinds of adventures, which makes people dream of becoming the bodyguard of a beautiful woman. The president Qian Jin falls in love with me. All kinds of illusions are full of crazy desires, but he refuses to let people really face life.
Those shuangwen intentionally or unintentionally hide the key points in the real events, only tell the anecdotes that are most conducive to the spread, and bring sensory stimulation to people. If readers unconditionally accept these stories and principles, they will only bring wrong cognition, and can not have the positive power to change their fate.