Chapter 399： Actually you dont understand his heart (1/2)
”Well, she is really just a girl.”
The ”500 Days with Shamo” set on the streets of San Francisco, the performance area where the camera lens is aimed, listening to Wang Yang's words, Natalie holding the script nodded calmly, but there was a circle of ripples in her heart, obviously Shamo is a combination of Helen and Natalie, why is he so in love with Helen? And only play ambiguous or indifferent to Natalie? Because you have a girlfriend? She glanced at Jessica sitting in the director's chair and reading the magazine. Everyone was just a girl.
”But Tom doesn't think so, he thinks that Shamo is a perfect goddess.” Wang Yang turned his head to look at Joseph Gordon Levitt. Tom was wearing a plaid sweater vest, a big boy next door, and he was full of art. The breath of sunshine. Wang Yang continued: ”I think every boy has a goddess in mind, when she is in love, she is regarded as a god, mí loves her aspects you like, intentionally or unintentionally ignores her aspects you don't like.”
This is exactly what Xi Shi sees in the eyes of her lover, as well as the love house and the Wu. Wang Yang said: ”At this time, you have several options. First, find an explanation for all her behaviors, and try to protect her by others in every possible way. She is still a goddess for some reason. Second, another way of persuading herself to actively change to cater to, Like her all; three, change her. All the choices have one thing in common, which is to adjust her to an ideal state for you, which can make you indulge. But ... ”
Helen and he both love the third choice. Wang Yang paused and smiled: ”She is an ordinary girl, and no one is a goddess.”
Joseph Gordon Levitte said that he nodded in understanding, he was not in love, nor did he not understand what is a goddess, this is a big mentality of Tom in this relationship, he is in love with a goddess, so carefully and Abnormally intoxicated. Shamo in his eyes has no shortcomings, he and Shamo are destined to be a natural match, so he can't see Shamo actually does not care about ”Ball Ranger”, actually like ”Graduate”, did not listen to him at all He often chooses to explain to Shamo's music album, maybe she just didn't pay attention, maybe just ...
It's not like that anyway. Because of this, he could not even see Shamo disappointed, changing his heart, and reminded him in a sudden pro-wěn way, ”You have to do something, confess to me! Propose to me!”, But Tom has been explaining Believe in Shamo, these are her coolness and anxiety; sometimes he also wants to choose to change her and change each other ’s relationship, not hesitating to anger and anger at the goddess, but he did not take the last step, the most An important step, because he was thinking ”this is Shamo”.
”Tom's love for Shamo is not only a person who loves Shamo, but also an ideal pursuit of his love status and love partner.”
Wang Yang glanced at Natalie, she was a little inexplicable, he smiled and said: ”This is the imagination space provided by destiny + love at first sight, Tom believes that Shamo is that person, the most perfect partner of his life. In fact, he and Sha Mo was indeed a very good match. Later, it was not that Shamo loved him enough or Shamo was not good enough, but Shamo was a real person, they were a real couple, and sadly, Tom did n’t keep up. Rhythm.”
After the love that can cover up all problems, you suddenly find that the other party has shortcomings, there are places that make you dissatisfied, and they ca n’t explain it, even worse! The two sides often think of not accommodating, tolerating, running in, but changing the other to control the other to achieve the state they want. This will lead to such battles between lovers, and often escalate for your life and death. In this love tug of war, no one will admit defeat.
Tom and Shamo's love tug-of-war is a war with the wrong rhythm. In the end, Shamo lost, and Tom lost.
After the only sweet period with the same rhythm, when Tom is still indulging in the atmosphere of love, his heart is looking forward to the future; the more mature Shamo has reached the next stage, she is no longer satisfied with those sweet or romantic, When she has cared, she is afraid of losing. She wants security and stability, love relationship and marriage, and a brave and down-to-earth man. Tom felt that the relationship between the two was still tǐK. On the one hand, he was very nervous. When Shamo was hot and cold, he was easy to go crazy; on the other hand, he was very comfortable, enjoying the sweet sense of the ambiguous relationship. .
Shamo's xìng grid has a restraining aspect. Although she likes a person to be attracted soon, she will soon start to look at each other calmly again. This does not mean that she does not like him. When Tom still thinks that Shamo is very good; Shamo has started to examine his shortcomings and feels that ”Tom is disappointing”, especially when another excellent man appears, Shamo is very struggling, she still gave Tom a lot Opportunity, but he didn't seize it.
In fact, Tom is not a cowardly and timid person. He dared to face up at the bar with the playmaker. He did not have the courage to confess. He just regarded Shamo as the goddess.
If Tom has no courage, Shamo also has no courage, but she is more courageous than Tom because she is the one who takes the initiative to change the stage of this relationship. However, the female ’s restraint and attitude towards love prevent her from confession. This step cannot be done by girls, otherwise what is the meaning of this love? That was not what she wanted. When Tom couldn't give her, she left.
”I ...” Wang Yang said a lot, looking at Natalie's face, suddenly a little stunned. When Helen called and scolded him, he didn't call back, because he took the initiative to interpret Helen's call as a hearty curse, and always felt like it was over. Helen didn't hit the second one, she wouldn't hit the second one, that was not what she wanted; later Jessica also waited for him for a while until her Thanksgiving dinner invitation, but she would not confess, she wanted It ’s a boy ’s confession because “love dating is like that”.
In fact, these are all problems of communication. If the two parties sit down and explain their own ideas openly, they will simply solve everything. Will this be the case? How many people can do it? Hope is simple, love is complicated.
”In the next set of shots, I need your status to regard Shamo as the goddess of muse, with a slightly more expressive smile!” Wang Yang tapped Joseph's shoulder, and Wang Yang told Natalie again: ”But you are already one ahead There is a sense of dissatisfaction with him. Do you understand? ”He said and walked towards the camera. He picked up the waist microphone and yelled to the crowd:” Everyone, take another 3 shots and have lunch after work. Start! ”
The muse? Shamo did give Tom a burst of inspiration, and he became the star of the greeting card company. Natalie handed the script to the assistant and walked to the plane. Was she once the goddess of Jan? The age of ”this killer is not too cold”? Natalie suddenly realized that no matter whether she used to be or not, she had no ”goddess image”. She was more proactive in her confession and pursuit, and lost too much to Helen from the beginning; Young had to go through a summer, he wanted autumn Now ... interesting time to get acquainted.
”What are you going to eat this weekend?” Jessica smiled slightly when she heard a familiar N, and the camera crew started not far away. She continued to look down at her diet magazine.
Sometimes love ca n’t be simple. There is never a way to hold a woman as a goddess, and never believe all the words of a woman. The problem is that if a woman is not like this, everything between the couples will be clear. Every love will Bloom and bear fruit?
One of the important factors for Tom Mí to love Shamo is that she is a goddess, cool, unpredictable, keeping a certain distance, having no inevitable sense of security, challenging xìng, others envious ... all these provide this love The sweet and sour feeling of love, if Shamo is more active and more eloquent, does not conform to the image of the goddess, the sweet and sour feeling will decline to the stage of ”Shamo is disappointing”, but positively and negatively enter this stage but there are Respectively, this affects the patience and tolerance for dealing with these disappointments.
To be sure, without these goddesses, Tom would not like her that much. This is a habit of men.
Wang Yang naturally does the same. There is a degree in it. If you go too far, you will really feel no more. The smarter and more mature women know how to control this degree, letting men hook up willingly. Of course, everyone ’s degree is in any position. Different. Not only the charm exuded by the woman itself plays a role, the two people ’s love, love, romance, etc. in the process of love produce a sweet sense of suspicion, suspicion, quarrel, etc. produce a sweet and sour feeling, the combination of positive and negative is love, they both provide The nutrients of love.
However, the sweet and sour feelings of love are wonderful only in a safe range. Wang Yang feels that it is a very intriguing emotion. He clearly feels heartache, and in the blink of an eye, it can be endless. If the sweet and sour is too much, it will cause fatigue, and the pain that makes Mí feel heartache will become a headache. He thinks about it because of the serious differences between the university choices and so on. He and Helen have no good feelings, but often Crazy, manic, anger, already called torture, is that still love?
But if you do n’t even have a sense of sweetness, is it still a lover? The sweet and sour pleasure that you come and go is love, it is a bit like a sweet neutralizer, otherwise the latter will gradually become tired and dull. When a man has a lack of interest in making fun of a man or a woman, making a joke about a man, and lacking interest in causing each other's emotional and physical ups and downs, their love is not far away from playing, even if they continue to maintain relationships, they only rely on affection and dependency.
Wang Yang ’s favorite and most enjoyable reason for being with Jessica is that no matter what aspect, they are in a safe range and degree, born to be a very ideal state, there is no distance and no fight, two hearts are tight Close to the ground, she is not a goddess, but a little woman. But how to maintain this hot love all year round? He never felt that they lacked a sense of sweetness; the other side of his heart often quietly asked for sweetness and sourness, so he thought that he would indeed find opportunities to **** ... of course they are all in the safe range.