Part 4 (1/2)
We should speak of people as Mr, Mrs, or Miss, except with inti particular titles when proper, and never allude to any one as ”Old Smith,” or ”Old Miss Jones”
To ood-breeding as well as good feeling
No one shouldand talking To make remarks intended to be overheard, especially remarks meant to be funny, is clownish,--and to be a society clown is a very low a, and must pay attention to re to us we ought to listen attentively, even if we are not interested, and not hurt his feelings by letting our eyes wander froood listener is as welcoood talker, and often more so, because every one who talks likes to be listened to with appreciative attention
Those who have read ”The Wide, Wide World” will re in this respect, when she was visiting at Ventnor
”Ellen is a fascinating child,” said Mrs Gillespie, ”I cannot coets the irl”
”I have noticed the sa often,” said Miss Sophia ”Did you observe her last night when John Hu to her at the moment Before the door was opened, I saw her color come and her eyes sparkle, but she did not look towards hi to her, and she had given, as she always does, her ht as an arrohere he was standing”
When any one is reading aloud, playing, or singing, we ought to give him the same close attention ould wish to receive if ere in his place Talking orabout at such ti at the clock as if ere impatient for the performer to finish
We should never interrupt with questions or re, and to look over the shoulder of one so eht to us, we should not open and read them in company unless they require i so
We should give interested attention to books, pictures, views, or games shown us for our entertainment, and express pleasure and admiration e can with truth If an article or a letter is given us to read, we should not hand it back without re else, as is often done by people who ought to know better, but we should thank the one who showed it to us, speak of it politely, and if there is anything about it we can commend, do so
If we have occasion to er, we should preface it with, ”Excuseyour pardon,” unless we use the si our question
It is ill-bred to contradict, especially if the one addressed be an older person If a person says in our hearing that the lecture was given Thursday evening, when it was really Wednesday, or that Miss Green was at the concert with Miss White e know that Miss Gray was her companion, it is not our place to eht If we are appealed to, or if there is good reason e should correct the statey for the correction
We ought to be willing in coeneral entertainive as well as receive, we had better stay at ho, or play to others unless we are invited to do so; but if a request is reeable to the company for us to comply cheerfully, and do the best we can, than to wait for ies before we begin If we do not feel able to do what is asked of us, we should politely but positively decline at first
If gaood reason for our doing so, it is not polite to decline taking part, saying, ”I will see the rest play” If all did this, nobody would be entertained It is ood manners to enter heartily into the amusement of the hour, and do our best to make it a success
It is this spirit of readiness to help on things that makes useful irls cultivate it the ht not to be content to be ciphers anywhere As significant figures, we shall be of more value in the world, be happier ourselves, and make others happier
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