Part 36 (1/2)

PRINCIPLE 9 Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

10 AN APPEAL THAT EVERYBODY LIKES

I was reared on the edge of the Jesse James country out in Missouri, and I visited the James farm at Kearney, Missouri, where the son of Jesse James was then living.

His wife told me stories of how Jesse robbed trains and held up banks and then gave money to the neighboring farmers to pay off their mortgages.

Jesse James probably regarded himself as an idealist at heart, just as Dutch Schultz, ”Two Gun” Crowley, Al Capone and many other organized crime ”G.o.dfathers”

did generations later. The fact is that all people you meet have a high regard for themselves and like to be fine and unselfish in their own estimation.

J. Pierpont Morgan observed, in one of his a.n.a.lytical interludes, that a person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one.

The person himself will think of the real reason. You don't need to emphasize that. But all of us, being idealists at heart, like to think of motives that sound good.

So, in order to change people, appeal to the n.o.bler motives.

Is that too idealistic to work in business? Let's see.

Let's take the case of Hamilton J. Farrell of the Farrell-Mitch.e.l.l Company of Glenolden, Pennsylvania. Mr. Farrell had a disgruntled tenant who threatened to move.

The tenant's lease still had four months to run; nevertheless, he served notice that he was vacating immediately, regardless of lease.

”These people had lived in my house all winter - the most expensive part of the year,” Mr. Farrell said as he told the story to the cla.s.s, ”and I knew it would be difficult to rent the apartment again before fall. I could see all that rent income going over the hill and believe me, I saw red.

”Now, ordinarily, I would have waded into that tenant and advised him to read his lease again. I would have pointed out that if he moved, the full balance of his rent would fall due at once - and that I could, and would, and would, move to collect.

”However, instead of flying off the handle and making a scene, I decided to try other tactics. So I started like this: 'Mr. Doe,' I said, 'I have listened to your story, and I still don't believe you intend to move. Years in the renting business have taught me something about human nature, and I sized you up in the first place as being a man of your word. In fact, I'm so sure of it that I'm willing to take a gamble.

” 'Now, here's my proposition. Lav your decision on the table for a few days and think it over. If you come back to me between now and the first of the month, when your rent is due, and tell me you still intend to move, I give you my word I will accept your decision as final. I will privilege you to move and admit to myself I've been wrong in my judgment. But I still believe you're a man of your word and will live up to your contract.

For after all, we are either men or monkeys - and the choice usually lies with ourselves!'

”Well, when the new month came around, this gentleman came to see me and paid his rent in person. He and his wife had talked it over, he said - and decided to stay.

They had concluded that the only honorable thing to do was to live up to their lease.”

When the late Lord Northcliffe found a newspaper using a picture of him which he didn't want published, he wrote the editor a letter. But did he say, ”Please do not publish that picture of me any more; I I don't like it”? don't like it”?

No, he appealed to a n.o.bler motive. He appealed to the respect and love that all of us have for motherhood. He wrote, ”Please do not publish that picture of me any more. My mother doesn't like it.”