Part 23 (1/2)

From the time of this story until Mr. Eastman's death, he and James Adamson were close friends.

Claude Marais, a restaurant owner in Rouen, France, used this principle and saved his restaurant the loss of a key employee. This woman had been in his employ for five years and was a vital link between M. Marais and his staff of twenty-one people. He was shocked to receive a registered letter from her advising him of her resignation.

M. Marais reported: ”I was very surprised and, even more, disappointed, because I was under the impression that I had been fair to her and receptive to her needs.

Inasmuch as she was a friend as well as an employee, I probably had taken her too much for granted and maybe was even more demanding of her than of other employees.

”I could not, of course, accept this resignation without some explanation. I took her aside and said, 'Paulette, you must understand that I cannot accept your resignation You mean a great deal to me and to this company, and you are as important to the success of this restaurant as I am.' I repeated this in front of the entire staff, and I invited her to my home and reiterated my confidence in her with my family present.

”Paulette withdrew her resignation, and today I can rely on her as never before. I frequently reinforce this by expressing my appreciation for what she does and showing her how important she is to me and to the restaurant.”

”Talk to people about themselves,” said Disraeli, one of the shrewdest men who ever ruled the British Empire.

”Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours .”

PRINCIPLE 6 Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

In a Nutsh.e.l.l SIX WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

PRINCIPLE 1 Become genuinely interested in other people.

PRINCIPLE 2 Smile.

PRINCIPLE 3 Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

PRINCIPLE 4 4 Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

PRINCIPLE 5 Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

PRINCIPLE 6 Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

Part THREE How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1 YOU CAN'T WIN AN ARGUMENT

Shortly after the close of World War I, I learned an invaluable lesson one night in London. I was manager at the time for Sir Ross Smith. During the war, Sir Ross had been the Australian ace out in Palestine; and shortly after peace was declared, he astonished the world by flying halfway around it in thirty days. No such feat had ever been attempted before. It created a tremendous sensation. The Australian government awarded him fifty thousand dollars; the King of England knighted him; and, for a while, he was the most talked-about man under the Union Jack. I was attending a banquet one night given in Sir Ross's honor; and during the dinner, the man sitting next to me told a humorous story which hinged on the quotation ”There's a divinity that shapes our ends, rough-hew them how we will.”

The raconteur mentioned that the quotation was from the Bible. He was wrong. I knew that, I knew it positively.

There couldn't be the slightest doubt about it.