Part 5 (2/2)

Amy: That's amazing.

Judd: She drove me to the airport in the morning.

Amy: Oh my G.o.d.

Judd: And her makeup was all smeared down her face. She looked crazy. And we had this weird goodbye, one of those things where you know you're not going to ever call each other.

Amy: Are we supposed to kiss goodbye like we're a couple?

Judd: And I thought, This is just heinous. I always tried to avoid all of that but every once in a while you would get so bored, you would think, I guess I should see what this is.

Amy: And then you're reminded that it's vile.

Judd: It's never delightful.

Amy: I've had one one-night stand in my life.

Judd: And yet people see your act as very s.e.xual.

Amy: Right.

Judd: So is that a character you're playing?

Amy: Well, it's a part of me, too. Because the stuff you're copping to and the saddest, worst moments of your life-that's the stuff people connect to and appreciate. In reality, I've almost always had a boyfriend. But in those phases in between, I've never held out on s.e.x at all. Like, I'll sleep with a guy right away. That's just what's in my nature. If I want to, I'll do it. I haven't ever used that like as a trading or a bargaining chip but I am also thirty-three and single, so...

Judd: You're allowed to.

Amy: Every year, if I have like one or two s.e.xual experiences, they might both be hilarious.

Judd: And then they add up, and people think, She must be doing this all the time. I have maybe six experiences from my whole life. But if I go onstage and tell three of them, it sounds like I have hundreds of them.

Amy: Right. But you can get up there and do that, and you're not the s.e.x Guy. But if I do it, I am. So I just embraced it.

Judd: But those experiences are funny. That's the thing. Your worst s.e.xual experience can be so humiliating and hilarious, both in movies and in stand-up. They're always the best stories. A guy who has got a lot of terrible s.e.x stories is the best dinner companion of all time.

Amy: It's the best. I did one last season on my show, about the biggest p.e.n.i.s I've ever encountered. It was like, that year I was single and I hadn't been single for four years. I dated a wrestler and there was so much preposterous s.e.x stuff from that relations.h.i.+p, and then I happened to go out with a guy and realized that his p.e.n.i.s was way more than I bargained for. I probably already told you who the guy was, but he was an athlete. He was this guy my sister loved, a hockey player. I don't watch sports but we winded up going out, mostly because my sister was like, ”Oh my G.o.d, you have to go out with him! I've had a dream about you two falling in love!” So I go out with him mostly so she would think I was cool, but he was really hot and it was fun. I was like, There's no way he's going to be attracted to me. He could have s.e.x with supermodels. So at the end of the night, I said, ”I'm going to get out of here because I feel like a little insane with you.” And he was like, ”No, I'll go with you.” We went to another bar and then back to his place and-what happened with his p.e.n.i.s, it was just so horrible and embarra.s.sing.

Judd: I haven't heard that bit.

Amy: You're supposed to be really excited about a big p.e.n.i.s, but when you're faced with one, it's like a unicorn-in theory, you've always wanted to see one up close but if it were ever standing in front of you, you'd be like, f.u.c.k that, and you would run. You'd be like, Oh, it's actually a horse with a weapon on its head. But in the moment, I was like, No, you have to do this. Everybody talks about how great it is. And I was like, okay, and I have a bunch of jokes in there about him going down on me because he was raised well but then I just realized that the guy has to do that, I mean he's like lighting candles. This guy needs to get the girl relaxed. And then he kind of pulled it out and acted like it wasn't a big deal. He was almost whistling like I wasn't going to notice. And then I tried to get myself psyched: You can do this! You played volleyball in high school!

Judd: You have to slow your heart rate down. Like a Buddhist monk.

Amy: And then I say, ”Do you have a condom?” He says no. And I was like, Way to call my bluff.

Judd: They don't make condoms that big.

Amy: So then we tried and it didn't work at all. It was not a possibility. I would have had to alter my body.

Judd: He must be used to this, right? He must know it's going to happen.

Amy: At one point, I say to him: ”Are you serious?” He's like, ”No, it's usually-” And I'm like, whatever. In my twenties, I would have given it the old college try, but I'm in my thirties now and I was just like, I have Olive Garden leftovers in the fridge, see you later. It's not happening. I'm not going to walk around New York with a gaping v.a.g.i.n.a because I had s.e.x with you once.

Judd: You tell that story and then you become known as a s.e.x comic.

Amy: It makes me feel like a little bit of a fraud, actually, and a little misunderstood. Onstage, I'll talk about how I've never done a.n.a.l, or no one's ever c.u.m in my face. I haven't done anything out of the ordinary. I've been so boring. But people don't hear that. All they hear is that you're talking about s.e.x.

Judd: How does that affect what you decide to do on your show? There's a certain amount of gender politics at play here, for sure, in what you decide to write about and talk about. Every sketch, in a way, ends up being about your position on certain things.

Amy: Right.

Judd: And your point of view is strong. That's what people like about it.

Amy: I'm only choosing and pitching what I'm interested in. If there is a great idea-something that I think that is kind of vulnerable and untouched, uncharted territory-I say, let's do it. I try to think of the ideas that are the most awkward.

Judd: What has been the most talked-about political sketch on your show so far?

Amy: We did one about rape in the military.

Judd: And does taking on a subject like that change the way you approach your work going forward? Does that inspire courage to write about different things?

Amy: I'm going to pitch things that I think are funny, but I will also pitch things about subjects that I think are unfair. I do feel a responsibility to be exploring some issues and so I try to always stay up on that stuff, reading every article I can get my hands on, trying to stay up on what's going on. I want to do something about the Equal Pay Act this season. I read every article on feminism.

Judd: Not too long ago, you gave a speech at Gloria Steinem's birthday party. Did people have a strong reaction to that?

Amy: Yeah. I got asked to do a monologue the year before, for some event, I can't remember what it was called. It was me and all these tiny actresses and I just felt like I needed to joke about it because we looked like an evolution chart or something. I felt like a big, blond monster, standing with a bunch of girls who had never seen s.e.m.e.n before. But my speech really came off strong because I was actually talking about some real things, bad things that had happened to me-and the other speeches weren't as hard. And so Gloria asked me to come talk the following year at her birthday party. So I wrote this speech about losing all my self-esteem in college, and a kind of painful night that I tried my best to make funny.

Judd: What about it do you think connected with people?

Amy: Just the feeling of losing all your confidence and feeling like you're worthless because of how other people are treating you. And then having to realize that the real issue is actually how you're treating yourself. I think that's something most people have experienced, feeling like they don't deserve love.

Judd: Do you ever go back and read your own speech, to cheer yourself up?

Amy: Yeah, and my friends will quote it to me.

Judd: That must be a big change, to go from doing stand-up, just trying to get laughs, to realizing that people are paying attention to what you're saying. And that they're moved and inspired by certain things you say. It's not just about being funny.

Amy: I'm taking this responsibility seriously. I'm looking at it as an opportunity. What do I want to say? What have I really learned? Where am I, really? I'm not interested in just saying something for shock value anymore. I do feel more of a weight about the message that I'm sending because I know what it's like to be on the other end of that and I don't want to be in denial about what success means-and like how many people I'm reaching now. I want to make people feel better.

CHRIS ROCK.

(2014).

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