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2. How can I have the most impact on your life in the next ninety days (three months)?
3. List three key goals you want to accomplish through our work together.
4. What stops you from achieving what you want in question #2 or #3 above?
5. Project ahead one year: As you look back, and things went well, how did you benefit from our coaching relations.h.i.+p?
6. What are your expectations from our work together? How can we exceed these expectations?
7. What else is helpful for me to know about you?
8. Explain your background (use the same format as the examples below).
Examples: 1. After thirty years as a commercial insurance broker, I hit a wall last May, and decided to change careers ...
2. After twelve successful years in the high-tech industry, I found myself unfulfilled in finding a satisfying career. Over the years, I read countless books on the topic of finding one's true purpose in career pursuits, but was still missing a sense of purpose and clarity on what I wanted to do ...
3. After working for twenty years in the investment industry I decided to start my own company ...
4. Etc.
2. Before Each Session, Preparation Form Please fill out this form #2 for each coaching session. It should be filled out and e-mailed to me twenty-four hours before the next coaching session to a.s.sist me in preparing for that session.
(Copy this onto another sheet of paper, and leave lots of s.p.a.ce on the form for your answer, after each question below.) 1. Commitments that I made to myself on the last coaching session and what I accomplished since we had the coaching session: 2. The challenges and opportunities I am facing now: 3. The one action I can take that will most affect my current goals and provide the highest payoff: 4. My agenda for the coaching session is: 3. After Each Session: Reflection Form Immediately after each coaching session e-mail me form #3.
(Copy this onto another sheet of paper, and leave lots of s.p.a.ce on the form for your answer, after each question below.) 1. This week's commitment: 2. My greatest insights during this session were: 3. What you, my coach, said or asked during the session that impacted me most: 4. What I'd like you, as my coach, to do differently/more of/less of: 5. How I feel I am evolving from our work together: What happens in a counseling session is our responsibility, not just the counselor's or coach's.
The forms, above, are one way of our taking responsibility. Another, is that when you first contact prospective coaches for distance-counseling in particular, you have a right to ask them: (1) ”What training have you completed, relevant to distance-counseling, such as telephone skills, and supervised counseling?” (2) ”How will our distance-counseling be organized and scheduled?” and (3) ”What will the two of us do if and when interruptions occur during a session, at either end?”
You must always remember: distance-counseling, attractive as it will be for many, as necessary as it will be for some, definitely has its limits.
To the caveman, the technology that enables all this to happen in this twenty-first century, would be jaw-droppingly awesome. But, good career counseling or coaching is not just about technology. What is really truly awesome, in the end, is simply our power to help each other on this Earth. And how much that power resides, not in techniques or technology-though these things are important-but in each of us just being a good human being. A loving human being.
A Sampler
The following Appendix is exactly what its name implies: a Sampler. Were I to list all the career coaches and counselors there are in the U.S. (never mind the world), we would end up with an encyclopedia. Some states, in fact, have encyclopedic lists of counselors and businesses, in various books or directories, and your local bookstore or library should have these, in their Job-Hunting Section, under such t.i.tles as ”How to Get a Job in ...” or ”Job-Hunting in ...” Now, let me repeat this:
I did not choose the places listed in this Sampler; rather, they are listed at their own request, and I offer their information to you simply as suggestions of where you can begin your investigation-when you're trying to find decent help.
Do keep in mind that many truly helpful places and coaches are not listed here. If you discover such a coach or place, which is very good at helping people with Parachute and creative job-hunting or career-change, do send us their pertinent information. We will ask them, as we do all the listings here, a few intelligent questions, and if they sound okay, we will add that place as a suggestion in next year's edition.4
What kind of questions? This directory appears nowhere but in this book, so we may presume you are interested in this book's approach, and if you need a little help it is help with the process in this book. We tried being broader in the past-there are obviously excellent counselors out there who have never heard of this book-but it turned out that our readers wanted counselors and places that have some expertise with Parachute, and can help job-hunters or career-changers finish the job-hunt in this book.
So, if they've never even heard of Parachute, we don't list them anymore. But even among those who have, we can't automatically a.s.sume they're good at what they do, no matter how many questions we asked them. So we list them and leave the research to you.
You must do your own sharp questioning before you decide to go with anyone. If you don't take time to research two or three places, before choosing a counselor, you will deserve whatever you get (or, more to the point, don't get). So, please, do some research.
The listings that follow are alphabetical within each state, with counselors listed by their name in alphabetical order, according to their last name.
Some offer group career counseling, some offer testing, some offer access to job-banks, etc. Ask.
One final note: places and counselors listed here have said they counsel anyone; 99% of them can absolutely be trusted, in this. A few, however, may turn out to have restrictions unknown to us (”we counsel only women,” or ”we only deal with alumni,” etc.). If that turns out to be the case, your time isn't wasted. They may be able to help you with a referral. So, ask them, ”Who else in the area can you tell me about, who helps with job-searches, and are there any (among them) that you think are particularly effective?” (Also, write us and let us know they only counsel some people, so we can remove them from this Sampler next year.) Area Codes If you call a phone number in the Sampler that is any distance geographically from you, and they tell you ”this number cannot be completed as dialed,” the most likely explanation is that the area code was changed-maybe some time ago. Throughout the U.S. now, area codes are subdividing constantly, sometimes more than once during a short time span. (We ask counselors listed here to notify us when the area code changes, but some do and some don't.) Anyway, call Information and check, or look up their phone number on the Web.
Of course, if you're calling a local counselor, you won't need the area code (unless you live in one of the metropolitan areas in the U.S. that requires ten-digit dialing).
1. Sometimes the written contract-there is always a written contract, when you are dealing with the bad guys, and they will probably ask your partner to sign it, too-will claim to provide for an almost complete refund, at any time, until you reach a cutoff date in the program, which the contract specifies. Unfortunately, fraudulent firms bend over backward to be extra nice, extra available, and extra helpful to you, from the time you first walk in, until that cutoff point is reached. Therefore, when the cutoff point for getting a refund has pa.s.sed, you let it pa.s.s because you are very satisfied with their past services, and believe there will be many more weeks of the same. Only, there aren't. At fraudulent firms, once the cutoff point is pa.s.sed, the career counselor suddenly becomes virtually impossible for you to get ahold of. Call after call will not be returned. You will say to yourself, ”What happened?” Well, what happened, my friend, is that you paid up in full, they have all the money they're ever going to get out of you, and now, they want to move on.
2. Two famous ”distance coaches” are Joel Garfinkle in Oakland, California, ; and Marshall Goldsmith of , international coach to the executive elite, and author (with Mark Reiter) of the popular book, What Got You Here Won't Get You There.
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4. Yearly readers of this book will notice that we do remove people from this Sampler, without warning. First of all, there are accidents: we drop places we didn't mean to, but a typographical error was made, somehow (it happens). Oops! Counselor or coach: call this to our attention; we'll put you back in next year.
But accidents aside, we do deliberately remove the following: places that have moved, and don't bother to send us their new address. Coaches and counselors: If you are listed here, we expect you to be a professional at communication. When you move, your first priority should be to let us know, immediately. As one exemplary counselor wrote: ”You are the first person I am contacting on my updated letterhead ... hot off the press just today!” So it should always be, if you want to continue to be listed here. A number of places get removed every year, precisely because of their sloppiness in keeping us up-to-date with their phone and other contact information.
Other causes for removal: Places that have disconnected their telephone, or otherwise suggest that they have gone out of business. Places that our readers lodge complaints against with us, as being unhelpful or even obnoxious. The complaints may be falsified, but we can't take that chance. Places that change their personnel, and the new person has never even heard of Parachute, or ”creative job-search techniques.” College services that we discover (belatedly) serve only ”Their Own.” Counseling firms that employ salespeople as the initial ”intake” person that a job-hunter meets. If you discover that any of the places listed in this Sampler fall into any of the above categories, you would be doing a great service to our other readers by dropping us a line and telling us so (10 Stirling Drive, Danville, CA 94526-2921).
Appendix D
Sampler List of Coaches * Throughout this Sampler, an asterisk before their name, in red, means they offer religious counseling as well as secular-”religious” means they're not afraid to have you talk about G.o.d, if you're looking for some help in finding your Mission in life through faith.
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